Feminism isn’t an elite club with impossible entry requirements; it’s a movement built on learning, growing, and showing up as your full, flawed self. When we let go of perfection, we make space for action. We move from fear of getting it wrong to a willingness to engage, listen, and evolve. And that’s where real change happens—not in some imagined state of flawlessness, but in the messy, human, ongoing work of fighting for a better world.

If you’re grappling with whether to see your family this holiday season, I want to tell you something that might feel radical: You don’t have to go.